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About Kassandra

Cuddle Coaching is a proactive (rather than reactive) approach to pain management.

When Cuddle Coaching, your body relaxes signaling your brain that you are safe, relieving stress, and making you happier. Pleasure travels faster through your nerves than pain meaning that the pleasure of being stroked and held can directly reduce pain. Being listened to with compassion and curiosity for every aspect of you allows you to feel known like you’ve never felt known before and relieves your fear of the unknown within you. Thus begins a cycle of reduced stress, reduced pain, increased contentment, and increased agency. Click Request a Session to get started.

“I feel stronger and more alive after our session. I want more of this.” From G, a male client in his 50s in daily pain 11 months after an automobile accident and surgery.

Cuddling decreases stress hormones and increases feel-good hormones. That means you get both short-term and long-term benefits for chronic pain.

Short-term benefits include

– increased relaxation and

– reduced pain.

Long-term benefits include:

– better sleep,

– more emotional stability,

– self-awareness and empowerment,

– increased energy and reduced fatigue

– and, of course, increased relaxation and reduced pain.

In the words of another delighted client, “I want you to know how much I enjoyed our physical time cuddling and talking! Though nothing compared to the absolute zero pain I felt during our session, I have had 60-70% less pain since. I enjoyed everything – your touch, talking, getting deep into identifying and asking for what I wanted. Thank you!” ~ from M, a woman in her 40s who’d been experiencing chronic shoulder and neck pain for about 2 years.

The touch I offer is consensual, non-sexual touch. Clothing stays on. We shut the door on sex and romance and open to the door to intimacy, sensuality, touch, cuddling, holding, pleasure, understanding, and compassion. I work with men, women and non-binary people of all ages, abilities, and diagnoses. We will have a phone conversation before we meet to make sure we are a good fit for one another.

Each session is completely about you.

“Whilst the problem is superficially a physical one, the real challenges faced by someone with chronic pain are mental. Mental state is the biggest modulator of physical pain. Things hurt more when you’re stressed or sad, and the increased pain makes you both stressed and sad.”

Cuddle Coaching with Kassandra reduces stress and tension, helping you feel safe enough to stop fighting the pain and work with your mind and body to feel better. I invite you to reach out, let me know a bit more about you, and begin to enjoy your body again.

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Session information from Kassandra

We’ll start each session by creating clear boundaries for safety and empowerment, making sure we’re both clear on what you want out of our time together. Cuddles happen on a comfy couch or memory foam mattress topper on the floor. The room is simple and private. Lighting can be bright or dim as you choose. I often play Norah Jones or Deva Premal on Pandora. You’re always welcome to bring your own music or make requests. Car parking is easy and free. I’m close to bike paths and a 5 minute walk from the 208 bus stop at Airport and Valmont Roads in Boulder. If mobility or accessibility is an issue I can come to you and waive my usual travel charges. Please let me know of any special needs or requests in our initial phone conversation.

Skills & Specialties

Coaching for family and relationships at ParentCoaching.org Nonviolent Communication Inner Empathy Parts Work The Wheel of Consent via Like a Pro with Dr. Betty Martin Landmark Forum and Curriculum for Living 15 years of yoga and meditation teaching training as a somatic sex educator.


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