Session Rate: $80 per hour
I love platonic touch. An encircling hug, holding hands, a calming cuddle. Nothing is more amazing to me than the comfort of lying beside someone and breathing together. I have always been drawn to wellness. Yeah, I’ve hugged my share of trees. Back in the day I participated in encounter groups, went to a shyness clinic when I was struggling with social phobia. When I was little we had an orange cat named Toni and I liked to pet him till he purred like a motor. I am open to cuddling people of any gender or orientation. We all need to hold and be held.
THE STORY OF THE BOAT AND TWO ISLANDS.
Picture that there are two islands in the sea. One is called Pain Island, which might include things you are trying to escape from and rise above. On that island is job stress, isolation, depression, no close friends, no love or magic or nurturing. Sadly, you may live on Pain Island. And then there is this other island you’ve heard about called Spa Island, which includes everything you’ve been trying to get to. On that island is platonic cuddling, tenderness, laughter, conversation, endless hugs, community, connection, safety, serenity.
Well, think of me as the boat. I want to transport you from Pain Island to Spa Island. I plan to surround you with unconditional care and humanity for an hour or two. Maybe you don’t live on Pain Island at all. Maybe you just love to cuddle and don’t get enough snuggling in your life. Let’s connect! Let’s get to Spa Island.
(The story of two islands was based on a talk given by Marcia Baczynski at CuddleXpo. She is a co-founder of the Cuddle Party.)
My clients are wonderful, brave and pro-active about getting their needs meet. Their ages range from 20 to 70, of all ethnicities. They are single, partnered, divorced, widowed; male and female, gender-fluid. They are of various orientations or they may be asexual. They include mothers, businessmen, psychiatrists, college students, social workers, husbands, wives. Sometimes they cuddle with me to try to resolve a particular challenge or problem. I’ve cuddled with married men exploring their feelings for men. Sometimes people just miss the fun and affection of cuddling with another human, lying side by side and staring at the ceiling, breathing in sync with someone as they spoon. Why should partnered people have all the fun?
My clients seek out cuddle sessions with me for a range of reasons. Here are some examples. A mother who takes care of her young child suddenly realizes she needs to be taken care of also. A gay man who has tried the bars, online dating, clubs — hasn’t cuddled anyone affectionately for years. He feels his biological cuddle clock ticking. A woman who works in research is trying to get over the death of a close friend. A questioning man who’s been happily married for decades to a woman books a session, tells me I am the first man he has ever cuddled in his life. A young college student majoring in psychology is forever studying and discovers her touch needs have gone unmet.
We love to be cuddled as babies. Just because we grew up doesn’t mean we outgrew the need for cuddling. Take a leap of faith. Yeah, cuddling sounds a little crazy. But it’s crazy good too.
In my hugging and cuddling, I strive to express unconditional love and empathy for all people, and to give my partner my attention and my engagement. I work in the nonprofit world, design cool websites, and write sci-fi novels. If you’re not sure you’re ready to book a cuddle session just yet, feel free to ask me a question or two. Press “Request a Session.” I look forward to answering! Or just take a leap of faith and make a booking with me.
“I am a single mom raising a child. Sometimes I just need more me time. Dwight was a good listener and made me feel very comfortable. Cuddling with him was fun.” Laura, Single Mom & Creative Artist
“He was wonderful and just the right person for my introduction to cuddling. I felt so comfortable with him. He was very caring and respectful. I felt like I was spending time with a long-time friend. What can I say? I love cuddling with the guy.” Joe, Questioning Husband & Repeat Cuddlist Client
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“Dwight was a wonderful facilitator for cuddling. I can easily feel threatened by people especially in vulnerable situations. His gentle and open nature made me feel safe to be myself. Thanks again for giving me such a huge experience of positive touch.” Nora, Psychotherapist wanting to feel cared for
“I used to have a partner but no longer, and I haven’t dated in years. I just missed holding someone and being held! Dwight provided me just the comfort I was seeking. And he’s a good listener.” Roy, Single Gay Man seeking platonic affection
Session information from Dwight
We can cuddle on either the futon or the bed, whichever you prefer. Optional amenities: If you like, I can prepare the space with gently fragrant essential oils. Soothing music can play from my portable Bose speaker with various playlists (from gentle alternative pop to Gregorian chants, or suggest something! ). I have a book called The Cuddle Sutra which depicts various cuddle positions. A long embrace, spooning, face to face, head on chest, just breathing together side by side, holding hands, talking, not talking, laughing. Or you can read a book or work on your laptop or watch TV — while I simply hold you. All these things are options.
Whether in private cuddling or group cuddling, I’m interested in how we humans can find better ways to get our intimacy needs met. We live in a stressed-out, plugged in world. As a cuddler, I hope to pave the way for a more inhabitable, cozy world by using whatever abilities I have. Our time together can and should be an oasis. At times I can hold your head gently in my hands to calm your mind as worries melt away. Or I can do a light neck/back rub since we all carry tension from sitting and working at our computers.
One Hour — $80
90 Minutes — $100
Two Hours — $125
If you book for your follow-up session, you will get $20 off the follow-up.
Overnight Cuddles — $250 (This is a low rate for overnights. Client shoud be a returning cuddler.) An overnight is a much more immersive cuddle experience. Ideal when you really need a mini-break from life or a staycation on Spa Island! Details of an platonic overnight cuddle can be co-created between me and you — such as the general agenda, possible meal break, bedtime, waketime, cuddle time, conversation, watching TV or a movie, etc. I do snore and you might bring earplugs. Or I can use a CPAP breathing mask and not snore.
* Ask about special cuddle packages covering 6 months or 12 months to experience the deeper effects of ongoing touch maintenance.
(You can pre-pay using Chase Quickpay Zelle or Venmo, or pay in cash with exact change on the day of our session.)
CANCELLATION FEE: When I book with a client, I prepare my mind spiritually and my cuddle space physically for the person. So if you need to cancel, please give 24 hours notice. If you cancel less than 24 hours prior, you are expected to pay 50% of the fee.
I believe cuddling is an inalienable right for all humans whether they are partnered or single.