Session Rate: $80/hr + Travel fee
About John C
Holding and being held have always been natural to me. In my life and career, I have worn many hats – Lifelong Student, Psychotherapist (Jungian), Teacher, Traveller, Spiritual Guide, Spouse, Parent, and friend. In a nutshell, I enjoy creating environments where people can feel safe, comfortable, and free to explore, experience, learn and heal. Cuddling, therefore, comes naturally to me. In our society, so many are touch-deprived, and being able to engage in this basic human need can be transformative. The Cuddlist experience provides practical learning in maintaining boundaries, giving and requesting consent, and honoring the requests of others. This is so timely for our culture now and going forward, especially during this pandemic where so many have been experiencing both uncertainty and isolation.
I am a retired secondary science teacher with more than twenty years of experience, who now teaches yoga and meditation. So much of my previous career was centered around alternative educational environments. My favorite students were those who were rejected or simply not understood by more conventional programs. I have also taught in correctional facilities, and internationally in Kuwait, India, and Nepal. I was led into this profession from eight previous years as a psychotherapist and my genuine love for helping others. As someone in these helping professions, I recognized early on the necessity of supportive and nurturing touch for human beings and its healing value on the physical, mental, and spiritual levels. I am therefore very excited to be bringing cuddling sessions to those ready to take a big step to enrich their lives. I am available to everyone, of any age, size, shape, ability, ethnicity, belief system, gender, orientation, or cultural background. Together, we will create a safe, non-judgmental environment where we can both relax and let our true selves be free, sharing what is essential to human nature: compassion, touch, and emotions. I work with people in a therapeutic process as well as individuals in need of platonic human contact.
Session information from John C
I am currently only available for outcalls. I share my small home with two others and space is limited. I also believe that there are advantages to practicing this mode of healing in the environment where a client can feel most at ease. Before my arrival, please determine the place in your home that feels most like your personal sanctuary. Typically, cuddle sessions can take place sitting or lying on the floor with pillows, on a couch, or on a bed, the choice is up to you. Prepare by changing into comfortable clothing, eat and drink something if you need to, and take a little time to just relax and let go of the cares of the day. You’re welcome to play your choice of music, I will also bring my IPad and a portable speaker. When I arrive, please show me where I can place my shoes, the location of the restroom, and any other necessities. Also, please have your payment ready in the form of cash, check, PayPal, or credit card.
Our cuddle session will be based solely on your needs at the moment. We will always start by taking a little time to breathe, ground, and relax. Then I will ask you how you would like to cuddle. If you are at a loss, I can suggest a few ways to start based on your comfort level.
Remember the primary rule in cuddling: If either one of us becomes uncomfortable for any reason, we promise to say so and request a change. I will ask you to promise that as we start. With this in place, we can have a level of trust that makes it unnecessary to worry about what the other person needs, and also to feel free to ask for what we want – without fear of judgment. At any time during the session, you will be encouraged to communicate your feelings, emotions, and desires.
Cuddling is also about self-awareness, knowing and expressing your needs at the moment. At any time during the session, you will have full ability to change activity or even stop the session if something feels uncomfortable.
I will be there to share with you, listen to you, and offer the space you need to heal; silence or conversation, holding you or being held by you, moving or staying still. You might want to spoon, give or receive a back rub, you might just want to touch hands, you might want to simply sit and talk, or you might want to dance -everything goes within our boundaries!
We will set a timer for 10 minutes before the end of the session, to allow some re-adjustment, and to reflect together on the session and answer any lingering questions. If this is what you desire, please send me your phone number or email address and suggested times to reach you.