Session Rate: Not available for sessions during the rest of January 2020. Sorry :(
1 hour, 1½ hour, and 2 hour sessions are generally available.
(No travel fees within the Salt Lake and Utah valleys.)
Cuddle Space office at 400S. & State St., SLC, UT
Touch. Exactly the way YOU want it.
Do you wish that you could get the exact kind of touch and cuddles exactly the way you want it, without difficulty, negotiation, or denial?
My goal is to create a deep feeling of safety for you, to feel appreciated for who you are right now, to know that your needs are important, where you can feel free to ask for any kind of platonic touch or cuddles that you want. You don’t have to do or change anything. You can ask for exactly what you want, knowing that you will receive the benefits of healthy, affirming, affectionate, wanted touch that nourishes your soul, all while experiencing safety, comfort, and loving acceptance just as you are.
It’s OK to want to be held, nurtured, and cared for.
Come experience the goodness of being held, nurtured, and cared for in just the way you need.
I am certain you will think this is one of the best things you ever did for yourself!
Getting the touch you need.
Cuddle Party is one excellent way to get some of your unmet touch needs met and I encourage everyone to experience a Cuddle Party. Besides being able to consensually ask for the kind of touch you want, it also draws amazing people together.
Here’s where you can find Cuddle Party’s in Utah: Meetup.com/UtahCuddleClub or worldwide: CuddleParty.com.
A Cuddlist session is another great place to get your touch needs fulfilled.
In a Cuddlist session, you get to choose what you want, how you want it, and how long, always.
The ‘rules’ are so simple, yet so powerful.
As a Cuddlist and client, our promise each other will be that if either of us becomes uncomfortable, we will speak up and tell the other that we are uncomfortable, we will stop whatever is happening, and change what is happening in a way so that both can return to their personal places of feeling comfortable.
The discomfort could be anything, it could be nothing, or it could be something you don’t have words for.
You don’t even have to be uncomfortable, you can still change anything at any time.
With that out of the way, the focus of the session is you and getting you the touch and cuddles that you want!
The Father you Wish you’d Had
My other main focus is on people who have experienced a father who was absent, abusive, or worse.
You can have the healthy, wanted, loving, and affectionate touch of the father you wished you had, instead of the one you actually had.
There are so many people with absent or neglectful parents that didn’t, couldn’t, or wouldn’t touch them appropriately as children to provide them with the healthy unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and unconditional affection they deserved.
I personally experienced this lack of parental touch too, and can only say that it has been deeply and profoundly healing for me to experience being a Cuddlist client and re-patterning the damage of not being touched by a parent in a deeply caring wanted way.
This is what ignited my passion to become a Cuddlist and I want to make that gift available to others that are looking for a male/father figure to work with them too.
I am especially interested in working in conjunction with you and your therapist to provide the physical touch you need to heal, while they continue support your emotional growth.
In the same way, if your boundaries have been violated in the past, I am happy to provide a safe space for you to work on speaking and practicing your boundaries in a healthy way.
What to expect in a Cuddlist Session with Ray
One of the most wonderful things about a Cuddlist session is that you are in full control at all times.
If you are ever uncomfortable with anything, we stop!
You then have the time and freedom to figure out what you do want and what does make you comfortable, and you will never be rushed.
You will receive my full undivided attention in whatever way you want.
You don’t even have to cuddle at all, if you just want to talk instead, I am happy to listen.
You can change anything at any time for any reason, or even no reason, always!
As awesome as that is, if you actually know what you want it can be so fun to explore touch and cuddling in entirely new ways.
Nourish your inner child, indulge your adult, and switch back at any time. It is always up to you.
From Cuddle Parties, I have been told repeatedly that I have a sweet and gentle soothing manner that helps people relax and let go of their fear and anxiety. I am patient, empathetic, and happy to listen or serve in whatever way will benefit you.
All emotions are also welcome here, and it is not unusual to experience emotions while in a Cuddlist session. I invite you to just experience it and enjoy the unconditional acceptance, while you can explore with newfound freedom the goodness and growth that comes from experiencing your emotions without judgement. That alone, is powerful in ways that you will not be able to fully grasp until it happens.
I am also open to you bringing your ‘wingman’/safety friend, and even splitting the session with them. You probably won’t want to share after you have your first experience, but it will remain an available option as long as the intake and agreements have been completed by both of you first.
A shared session cost is $80/hr. A non-participating safety friend is free.
Both you and your safety friend must be present at the intake interview, both agree to and sign the Cuddlist “Code of Conduct,” as well as our mutual agreements/boundaries as Cuddlist and client(s).
How it Works
All ages, genders, sizes, races, religions and sexual orientations are welcome!
You request an intake session using the ‘Request a Session’ button underneath the picture.
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We will schedule a 15 to 25 minute face to face meeting after you contact me, but before the session is confirmed to answer all your questions and discuss the Cuddlist Code of Conduct. There is no charge for this pre-session meeting.
If together we each agree that this would be a good fit, then generally we will be able to proceed into a session immediately afterward or we might choose a more convenient later time/date.
I have been attending Cuddle Parties since 2015, more than 20 events so far. I have been in a personal relationship with a Cuddle Party Facilitator/Professional Cuddlist for several years. I also have over 30 hours as a client with another Cuddlist. I am intimately familiar with boundaries, mutual consent, and how to give and receive healthy wanted touch.
I am so fortunate for the multiple incredibly rewarding ways I have been associated with Cuddle Party, Utah Cuddle Club, Mary Sorensen (our Utah Cuddle Party facilitator), and the many awesome people I have met through Cuddle Parties, my own Cuddlist, and now in the Cuddlist practitioner community across the US and the world.
Session information from Ray
In-calls are in an office building on the lower level with stair access only, located near 400S & State St., SLC, UT.
The office is close to the ‘Courthouse’ Trax station used by the Blue (701), Red (703), and Green (704) lines.
One-way fare on Trax is $2.50 from any station.
Metered parking is often available streetside, and if none is available, a parking structure ($5/all day) is directly across the street.
Outcalls at your location in Salt Lake or Utah valleys.
No ‘Travel Fee’ for outcalls within the Salt Lake or Utah valleys.
I will NOT be available during the rest of January 2020.
Reliable Internet will not be available and I will not be responding to requests placed during month January. On/after February 1, 2020 when I return l will respond to any inquiry messages left
Request an intake session after February 1, 2020 to schedule a meeting, discuss and determine availability.