Session Rate: $80
Hi, I’m Robert. I love giving people the care and attention they need and deserve, and I love creating safe spaces for people to receive and explore touch. I’m not afraid of your feelings.
I’m that friend that people go to when they need care, to have their head stroked or to be listened to. There’s nothing more joyous in life than holding someone as they cry, or sitting with someone and letting them feel what they are feeling, and giving them care and approval in that place. It’s often the thing that can dissolve our sadness or loneliness, our guilt and our shame.
I love dropping in to those intimate places with people, and doing something that is genuinely useful for them. That’s a skill I’ve turned into a life coaching business, and it’s something I do for my Cuddlist clients.
I love connection games too, and I have many where we can help you explore receiving, discovering what touch you like and what feels good to you, and also games around consent, boundaries and rejection. These games are genuinely fun and useful to play, and they help us learn so many lessons that so many of us never had the safe space to learn in. I love providing that space for my clients.
I’ve always been sensitive to others needs, and now I have found a way for that to be useful. I’m here for you, for whatever you need out of this experience. I want to give you the care and attention you deserve, or a safe space to learn or explore in.
In life I’ve been sad and depressed, I’ve been on antidepressants and in therapy, and the things that helped me most were being in a safe space with someone caring who could give me something without needing anything back. Crucially they were people who could just listen to me, and not be afraid of my darker feelings, and usually that meant they had been there themselves. Being able to express these things rather than hide them moved me towards getting so much more from life, to my black cloud dissolving, and towards helping others.
I’m so grateful to the people that did this for me. They allowed me to let go of the feelings I was holding onto and get in touch with my grief, which allowed me to find joy and love.
Playing connection games in my own life actually taught me the things I needed in order to feel safer around people, so that I didn’t need to avoid them and isolate myself. They taught me what I needed to know in order to be less stressed, or anxious. They have also let me work through a lot of past traumas, and rewrite patterns of behavior. I understand how valuable and rare those places are.
Doing these things without the complications of sex or romanticism, and with truly caring people who didn’t need anything from me allowed me to feel better, learn, and make so many changes in life.
I look forward to our first cuddle.
Session information from Robert
When you make contact, we will first schedule a short conversation where we feel if we’re a good fit. If we are, we’ll schedule a session, and I’ll send you the Cuddlist Code of Conduct for you to read before the session.
When we meet in person, we’ll talk briefly about what you want from a session and how you are feeling. Then we’ll find a place to start. If you have trouble knowing what you want, I’ll invite you to play a few games around asking for something, saying no, making adjustments or offers.
These games often break the ice, and let you sink in and feel comfortable.
We’ll spend the first part of the session honing in on what you’d like to feel, or how you’d like to be held or touched, and then we’ll sink into that position. We’re both able to make adjustments through the whole time together, for instance if an arm goes to sleep and need to move, or if you’d like to be held closer or more tightly.
Towards the end of the session a bell will sound so that we know it is closing soon. This is an opportunity for you to make any final requests. As the session ends, we’ll move apart. I’ll check in with you to see how you feel, and let you know a little about the effects of cuddling, and what you can expect from this deeply relaxed and nourished state.
I’ll check in with you by text the next day to see how you’re doing, and if there was anything that came up for you.