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Michelle Renee

Certified Cuddlist

Session Rate: $200 (Standard Rate - See Rate Info Below) Incalls and Outcalls Available

San Diego, CA (Rancho Bernardo)

About Michelle

(Pronouns: She/Her)

Fully Vaccinated for COVID19, Boosted Nov 23, 2021 and Sept 30, 2022.

I’ve been a Cuddlist Certified Practitioner since December 2015, with over 1,200 in-person session hours. As of August 2023, I’m also the Cuddlist Director of Training. In addition to professional cuddling, I’m a practicing surrogate partner and hands-on platonic intimacy guide. My work is in relational healing.  This is my career, not a side gig. 🙂  I love how I get to participate in my client’s self-healing!  Think of me as the scaffolding in your journey.

If you are seeking a “nurturing mom” experience or looking to heal some interpersonal wounds, I’m your Cuddlist, offering physical and emotional cuddling. It’s like gentle parenting for adults!

In our sessions:

  • You’ll feel unconditional acceptance. 
  • You’ll feel loved and cared for. 
  • You’ll feel seen and heard. 
  • I’m here to support you.

I value safety, which to me includes bodily autonomy, informed consent, personal choice, and authentic expression.  With a clinically-minded toolbox, I specialize in working with clients with trauma, addiction, PTSD, CPTSD, depression, and anxiety.  Some of these sessions never even include touch.  We will move at your pace. I work really well with clients needing exposure-type therapy.

Some of my favorite books relevant to my work in Cuddle Therapy: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Mother Hunger, What Happened to You?, and When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection.

Specifically, if you’ve read The Emotionally Absent Mother, my wish is that you will recognize my “Good Mother” characteristics which include but are not limited to:

  • a place of attachment
  • nurturer
  • mirror
  • cheerleader
  • mentor
  • protector

From Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,  our sessions are also well suited for “reparenting”.  In the book, Pete Walker talks about “re-mothing” as learning self-compassion and “re-fathering” as building assertiveness and self-protection.  Consider our time together a part of “reparenting by committee”, mentioned in the book.

As you can probably tell, I’m a big book nerd so if you ever want to nerd out with me, please do!

I’m also a relationship geek and very friendly to alternative lifestyles.  Your weird isn’t weird to me.

My clients are dedicated to growth and schedule regular sessions.  By sharing safe-space consistently, your nervous system can start to rewire for safety and security.  In that session-safety, the world starts to feel safer too.

I am experienced in working collaboratively with talk therapists.  Therapists find this work to be a corrective emotional experience for their clients. Please feel free to connect me to your therapist if that feels good to you and your therapist.

Lastly, thank you for being brave and asking for the connection you want. 

“Michelle is a passionate, ever-evolving professional. Over the course of years that we’ve been colleagues, I’ve always benefitted from her loving, kind, bright presence. I trust Michelle and refer clients her way regularly. If you’re considering her services, I strongly recommend that you get to know this caring practitioner.” ~ Jean Franzblau, Cuddle Sanctuary

More testimonials are available here.

Session information from Michelle

After you request a session, please watch for an email.  I’ll be sending a link to schedule a call so we can learn a bit more about each other.

RATES | Part of our intake process will include determining your rate for service. It is important to me to be able to offer this work to historically underserved populations while also abstaining from burnout so I can bring all of my clients my best self.

TRAVEL FEES | There is a $50 travel fee for sessions in western San Diego County.  If traveling outside of that area of San Diego County, there may also be a minimum day rate in addition to a travel rate of $50/hour of total drive time. I’m happy to travel across Southern California and offer Fly Me to You weekend intensives.  That said, San Diego is a beautiful destination if you’d like to fly to me. Please inquire.

LOCATION | I’m available for incalls in San Diego (Rancho Bernardo).  My home-studio location has steps into the second-floor space. This is also a pet-friendly space, including 2 cats and a small dog.  The small dog, Dax, is welcome into the session if you’d like, otherwise, he will not be joining us. Please be sure to let me know as I always assume he’s not included.

Outcalls are available across San Diego County and surrounding areas.  If studio accessibility is an issue, please reach out. I have options.

To get the most out of what you are looking for from your session, please review the Code of Conduct and view some Cuddlist videos.

Skills & Specialties

Certified Cuddle Party Facilitator Completed Cuddlist Advanced Training Trained Platonic Surrogate Partner GSRD (Gender Sexuality Relationship Diversity) Identified Practitioner AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists) Supporting Member Completed Deep Listening Course Completed Mental Health First Aid Completed The Institute for Mind Body Therapy's "Working in the Expanded Triadic Model: Online Training for Touch Pros" Program Completed Like a Pro: Wheel of Consent for Touch Pros Completed Psychotherapy Networker: Essentials of Trauma Treatment: Certified Clinical Trauma Professional Online Course Knowledgeable in Asexuality


Please contact me for best days and times.

In-office hours are 10:00am - 6:00pm 7 days a week. Outcalls are available 8am-8pm 7 days a week.

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