Session Rate: $60/hour + travel fees for outcalls
About Tom C
I provide a safe, grounded, and respectful space for nurturing touch, while helping you find your desires and feel good about asking for what you want. We’ll talk about identifying and setting boundaries, and how to speak up when you’re uncomfortable. My intention is to attune to your energy and listen deeply (on many levels) to what you are needing.
We’ll practice this in each session, and can even role play if you’d like to build confidence in a specific skill.
I have completed the Cuddlist certification program, and bring many years of experience from long-term intimate relationships where I practiced loving touch, as well as attending numerous Cuddle Parties (workshops on consent and communications practice with platonic touch) where I honed my skills. I’ve cuddled with dozens of people at events and one-on-one, and seen firsthand how important and healing it is to have access to platonic physical touch in a safe and nurturing environment.
I think you’ll find these skills are useful in other aspects of your life, not just cuddle negotiation! Whether at work, or in intimate relationships, you will benefit from setting boundaries, knowing what you want, and asking for it.
I look forward to meeting you and guiding you on this journey.
“My experiences connecting with Tom have been wonderful! Coming from a background of abuse and trauma, I needed extra care & communication in our interactions to feel safe. Tom was an excellent & empathetic listener, and was very responsive to my needs and requests. He put me at ease, and created a space where I felt empowered to ask for what I wanted, as well as practicing saying no to what I didn’t want. My “no” was always respected, and it was healing to have this sort of interaction with a man. Tom has a warmth and kindness that sets him apart from many men I have encountered, and I found my experience with him to be healing, transformative and yummy! Our times connecting left me feeling respected and cared for on a deep level. Touch is so important for mental and physical health and well-being, and I’m grateful there are men like Tom offering this powerful medicine in the world.” -T.W., Fairfax
“I felt comfortable with Tom right away. After eight years of being in a touchless, affectionless marriage, I was seeking a safe way to get my touch needs met without entering the dating scene. I was impressed with Tom’s attentiveness and communication skills, and I felt instantly soothed by the quality of Tom’s touch.
“Tom was respectful of my boundaries and communicated in a clear and honest way. I found the level of connection to be healing, and I believe it helped me open up to feeling like I could handle dating and entering a relationship again. I highly recommend Tom as a professional Cuddlist.” ~ E.M., Sebastopol, CA
“Your middle name must be “Love” because you’re all about the TLC.” -Anne, Mill Valley
“When I arrived for our first session, I was a little nervous. Tom’s warmth and kindness quickly put me at ease. During our session it felt wonderful to have the safe space to get in touch with my desires for physical connection, to find the words to express those desires and to be met with such gentleness and care. Tom is gifted in his sensitivity and ability to create a safe container for those who may not always feel entirely safe when it comes to vulnerability around the basic human need for physical affection.” – S.W., Cotati
Session information from Tom C
After submitting a request, we’ll schedule a brief phone or video call so I can introduce myself, answer your questions, hear about what you want to get out of our session, and then discuss logistics and scheduling.
When you arrive at my cozy Craftsman bungalow in downtown Napa, we’ll quickly review the Cuddlist Code of Conduct and commit to each other that we will only do things we want, and will speak up if we’re uncomfortable at any point.
We’ll discuss your goals and desires for the session, go over our personal boundaries, and then decide on how to start sharing nurturing human touch. For some people, that might just be hand holding or sitting next to each other while talking about their relationship with physical touch. For others, it might involve multiple cuddle positions with a variety of touch — firm holding, gentle stroking, tickling, or massage. You can make requests to have me touch you or for you to touch me in your preferred (nonsexual) manner.
We can cuddle on my cozy couch, in an oversized armchair or on top of an inflatable mattress. I’ll have a timer set to give us a 10 minute warning before the end of the session, so we can smoothly transition out of our cuddle.
Sessions are $60/hour, billed in 15-minute increments and a minimum of 1 hour. I accept cash and electronic payments (PayPal, Venmo, Zelle), either before or after our session. Accepting of all ages, ethnicities, genders, body types and identities. LGBTQ-friendly.
Details on my space: Street parking out front. Wood floors throughout, no pets, scent neutral (no scented candles or air fresheners). Please refrain from wearing perfume/cologne. Wear comfortable, loose-fitting clothing (minimum of tank top and shorts to mid-thigh). If you’d like, you can change here before our session.
Outcalls: I’m willing to travel to locations within 40 miles of downtown Napa, at a rate of $60/hour of travel time to and from your location. Travel fees waived for handicapped clients.