Life Coaching and Cuddle or Touch Therapy
Feel deeply connected and accepted for who you truly are.
Many successful people lack fulfilling connection . . .
Do you want a more fulfilling romantic life or sex life?
Want more touch with friends or a partner?
Want deeper friendships?
Felt this way for too long?
Create the connection you’ve dreamed of.
Create meaningful friendships.
Create a deep, intimate relationship.
Feel accepted for who you truly are.
Feel confident with the skills to do this for the rest of your life.
Step 1 – Click here to schedule your complimentary welcome call.
Step 2 – Try out 1 or more sessions to see if it’s a fit.
Step 3 – Start your personalized coaching program 3 – 6 months long.
Step 4 – Create fulfilling connection and touch with friends, family and/or romantically.
Contact me and get complimentary resources at www.cuddlingandcoaching.com
Licensed psychotherapist, Ashley King’s review:
“Human touch is a real and vital need. And most of us aren’t getting enough of it. Enter my amazing friend Kyle Robert Hoffman, who does incredibly healing work in this domain. As a professional cuddler, he facilitates sessions where you can be nourished by platonic, consensual, therapeutic touch. Learn to receive, ask for what you want, say no to what you don’t, and connect in our “native tongue”—the language we all spoke before we became verbal.
“As a psychotherapist, interested in what can supplement my client’s healing journey, I highly recommend Kyle’s work. I experienced an individual session with him, so that I could observe first hand what his skills are. I can say without any hesitation that Kyle’s natural caring, empathy, insights, and professionalism, can help clients experience the necessary elements needed to integrate a sense of wholeness. Additionally, for anyone in need of healing traumas, his work offers a reparative experience. I certainly will send clients to him, whom I believe could benefit from his work as a Cuddlist.
Throughout my 30 plus years as a clinician, I’m convinced that for anyone working with a psychotherapist, a real reparative experience, such as what Kyle offers, is a real added bonus.” -Arnie J. Vargas, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Ajvargas.blogspot.com
“I’m new to cuddling and was not only skeptical, but actually a bit afraid. It’s not easy being a big guy and first of all admitting that you want the touch of another human, but actually seeking that touch out. Kyle made it easy. It was filled with smiling, gentle conversation and letting me move at my own pace . . . My sessions with Kyle have been life changing.” -John, Team Manager, Fortune 100 Company
“I was a bit skeptical that I’d really feel comfortable enough cuddling with a stranger to get much from it but Kyle’s natural energy is just so calming. Within minutes, I felt like I was in the company of an old friend. The emotional rush of being cuddling with someone who felt so genuinely caring was incredibly healing.” -Liz, Marketing Project Manager
If you schedule a session we will communicate before meeting so you feel comfortable. In a session you’ll be guided through agreements that create safety and trust between us. Over and over you will be affirmed that this is about what feels right for you. You are always empowered to choose how you spend your session.
“Kyle is the epitome of professional and warm and welcoming at the same time. He takes time to explain what a cuddle session entails and answer any questions. He’ll ask questions to help guide the session and gently steer you toward discovering what you want or need out of the session if you are uncertain.” -Ralph, High School Teacher
You will be guided through an experience that is specifically for you. No one size fits all routine here. You may be held and you may hold me. You may receive loving, nourishing touch and may give the same to me. You may enjoy spooning, light caresses to your arms or face, having your hair or beard stroked or stroking mine, holding hands, holding each other sitting up, lying on top of each other, eye gazing, a scalp massage, belly rubs, enjoying as much space and time not sharing touch as you want, and any other kind of connection within our platonic boundaries.
We will talk and get to know each other as much or as little as is right for you. Feeling emotions and talking about life experiences are cherished here, whether your greatest accomplishment or darkest hour. If you want more platonic touch in your daily life you’ll be guided how to do that and given helpful resources. If you want to improve your boundaries, asking for what you want, truly receiving, comfortably expressing emotions, sharing deep platonic connection, healing old trauma, or anything else we’ll do that.
I welcome working with anyone of any gender identity, romantic orientation, physical or mental ability, age (18+), body type, ethnicity, etc.
If you have a question or are interested although not sure, please contact me with your questions or possible interest! We can have a complimentary in person conversation or phone or video call to help you decide if you’d like to try a session. Contact me to set up a time! 🙂
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Session information from Kyle
It’s your choice to use my cuddle sanctuary, your home, or another location (public park, etc.). I’ll gladly travel to you! (My travel reimbursement rate is $40/hour that I travel.) There are no pets or allergens in my home. I’m in a nice and safe area of University City, Philadelphia near the intersection of Walnut St. and South 44th St. Free parking and public transit are easily available. I can give you a video tour of my space beforehand if you’d like! 🙂
I’m occasionally in the Lehigh Valley of PA, as well as NJ, NY, CT, and MA for personal travel during which I joyfully do out calls in those areas with reduced travel reimbursement.
If you’re concerned about possibly having unintentional feelings of arousal in a session, don’t worry, we’ll handle it with ease if it happens. I address this in the FAQs section below. We can also chat about this before meeting if you want.
Contact me and get complimentary resources at www.cuddlingandcoaching.com
Answers to some great Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs):
A FAQ from some folks:
“This is my first time doing anything like this. I’m going to be honest, I feel kind of nervous.”
Thank you for telling me! I appreciate your honesty and great communication skills! For many of us, it takes real courage to say something like that.
Rest assured that most of my first time clients identify with this statement, so you’re in great company. 🙂
I’m pretty darn good at helping new clients get their questions answered and feeling more comfortable before and during a session. By some point in the beginning of our first session you’ll probably be feeling amazingly comfortable with me and your experience. Many of my first time clients are surprised at how comfortable and natural it feels so soon! It makes sense since it is a basic human way to connect.
“How does a Cuddlist session with you go? What’s it like?”
Before the session we’ll communicate to answer any of your questions and help you feel more comfortable. When we meet I’ll greet you with a warm smile and ask if you’d like a handshake, a hug, or neither. I’ll ask how your trip was and how you’re doing or feeling. I’ll offer you water and show you the freshly cleaned restroom.
We’ll walk up to my cuddle sanctuary room where you can keep your personal belongings during the session. I’ll invite you to sit or lie down anywhere you feel comfortable on the comfy large foam padding on the floor. We’ll start the session by talking about a few things first for about 5 minutes. I’ll promise you that I will only share platonic touch and talk about things together that I wholeheartedly feel good about. That way you don’t have to even think about if I feel comfortable with certain touch that you request or conversation since I will always honestly, gently let you know if I need to modify anything for me to feel comfortable. I’ll also ask you to promise to do your best to only share touch or conversation that feels like a good choice for you! 🙂 I’ll encourage you to say “no thanks” at any time to my offers of touch. I’ll encourage you to ask for modifications at anytime, for any reason, so we only spend time in a way that you enjoy!
In addition to the Cuddlist Code of Conduct (https://cuddlist.com/code-of-conduct/ ), I’ll share my personal boundaries which are that I’m not open to any platonic kisses (platonic like you’d give a kiss to a baby). Also if you want to eye gaze I can really enjoy that as long as we keep a couple feet of space between our faces. Besides the Code of Conduct and those boundaries, I’m basically open to giving and receiving any kind of platonic touch and cuddling that you’d like. If I need to modify any cuddling in the moment I’ll just kindly let you know. I’ll ask if you have any boundaries in addition to the Code of Conduct or any kinds of touch that you know ahead of time that you don’t enjoy (i.e. my feet are too ticklish, I don’t like my stomach touched, etc.).
I’ll share that all emotions are welcome here including crying, anger, nervousness, etc. You’re very welcome to feel any feelings while we’re cuddling, including crying with or on me, etc. I’m very, very comfortable with emotions, including tears. I will compassionately be with you if you feel feelings. I won’t try to change you, “fix it,” etc.
I’ll share that we can talk as much or as little as you’d like, about as light or deep personal topics as you’d like as long as it doesn’t’ involve you planning to hurt someone. This completes the introduction to our session.
I’ll ask if you’d like to start sharing platonic touch now, if you’d like to keep talking for now without touch, or if you’d like to meditate together which I can talk us through. If or when you want to share touch, I’ll ask if you have any ideas of touch you’d like to start with. If you do, we’ll start there. If not I’ll ask you some simple questions to gradually guide us to figuring out what kind of touch you would like to start with.
From there we’ll talk occasionally about how it’s going for you, if you’d like to shift into having some space or try a different kind of cuddling, etc. Per your preference and my intuition we may share times of silence, music, nature sounds, fun chatting or talking about personal challenges or experiences you want to share.
At the end I’ll lead you through a gradual, relaxing transition out of the session. I’ll give you tips for transitioning back to regular life. If you’d like I will check in with you in a day to hear how your experience was and how you’ve been since our session.
“Is this a silly question? Am I asking too many questions?”
I haven’t come across a silly question yet! 🙂 So please ask away! If you’d check through these FAQs to see if your question is adequately answered here this helps us make our time talking or e-mailing the most valuable to you. 🙂
“Do you do sessions with ____? (people identifying as men, women, other gender identity, LGBTQ, having a physical or mental disability, atypical on the neurodiversity spectrum, trauma from physical or mental abuse, who’ve been violated, living with anxiety, depression, etc., etc.)”
Yes! 🙂 If you are a human being who can follow the Cuddlist code of conduct then I welcome you with my open arms and big heart! 🙂 <3. If you have platonic intentions and have a disability that may make it challenging for you to always follow the code of conduct, I’m definitely open to talking about if we may still be a good fit.
I will never ask about your physical appearance, just as any good professional massage therapist or other professional would not.
“I go to therapy (psychotherapy, talk therapy). I think working with you could be a good addition to my other therapy?”
Yes! I agree. Therapists and my clients have found that to be very true. Here are a couple testimonials from psychotherapists I’ve worked with:
“As a psychotherapist, interested in what can supplement my client’s healing journey, I highly recommend Kyle’s work. I experienced an individual session with him, so that I could observe first hand what his skills are. I can say without any hesitation that Kyle’s natural caring, empathy, insights, and professionalism, can help clients experience the necessary elements needed to integrate a sense of wholeness. Additionally, for anyone in need of healing traumas, his work offers a reparative experience. I certainly will send client’s to him, whom I believe could benefit from his work as a cuddlist. Throughout my 30 plus years as a clinician, I’m convinced that for anyone working with a psychotherapist, a real reparative experience, such as what Kyle offers, is a real added bonus.” -Arnie Vargas, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, http://ajvargas.blogspot.com/p/about-us.html
From a public post on facebook – https://www.facebook.com/anahata32/posts/10161068422105125
“Human touch is a real and vital need. And most of us aren’t getting enough of it.
Enter my amazing friend Kyle Robert Hoffman, who does incredibly healing work in this domain. As a professional cuddler, he facilitates sessions where you can be nourished by platonic, consensual, therapeutic touch. Learn to receive, ask for what you want, say no to what you don’t, and connect in our “native tongue”—the language we all spoke before we became verbal.
Your nervous system will thank me, I promise!”
-Ashley King, licensed psychotherapist, http://www.psychoalchemy.com/
“I’m married or in a relationship with a ____ (woman, man, other gender identity). Is that OK? Is that weird?”
That’s completely fine and welcomed by me. I understand that there are many wonderful reasons why people in a relationship or marriage share sessions with me. It is totally your choice to share with me your relationship status or not. Your attendance and anything you share will always be kept confidential.
Just like going to a professional massage therapist or psychotherapist, it’s not my role to inquire about your relationship status and agreements.
“Are there certain cuddle techniques or positions that we’ll do or that you recommend?”
I know a plethora of ways that we can enjoy sharing touch which I’ll offer to you based on my intuition and experience. I’ll ask what you’d like since this is a great opportunity for you to think of what you’d like and ask for it. I’m also happy to make suggestions and guide our cuddling if that’s what you’d prefer.
You may be held and you may hold me. You may receive loving, nourishing touch and may give the same to me. A partial list of things we may enjoy are spooning, light caresses to your arms or face, having your hair or beard stroked or stroking mine, holding hands, holding each other sitting up, lying on top of each other, eye gazing, a scalp massage, belly rubs, enjoying as much space and time not sharing touch as you want, and any other kind of connection within our platonic boundaries.
“What should I wear?”
The Cuddlist code of conduct includes that both of us wear a minimum of mid thigh shorts and a tank top at all times. This means actual shorts you could wear in public. Some people enjoy wearing clothes like this to allow for more platonic skin to skin touch on their arms and legs which can feel great and soothing. You can also of course wear as much clothes as you’d like. Long sleeve shirts, long pants, sweat shirts, and any other extra layers are very welcome.
Please focus on wearing comfortable clothes. Sweat pants, athletic clothes, t-shirts, yoga pants, etc. are all welcome. Don’t overthink it. 🙂 As long as it meets the code of conduct and your intention is a platonic experience, what you wear will be just great! 🙂
“What if I feel aroused unintentionally during a session?”
Unintentional feelings of arousal are a completely fine human response to all kinds of things including platonic touch. It’s totally fine if feelings of arousal or erection happen unintentionally in our session. The important thing is that we will agree to never try to intentionally create or increase arousal. If it happens for you it will be your choice to talk about it if you want, or not and simply allow it to come and go without giving it any focus. For myself and others, learning to be able to possibly have feelings of arousal while sharing platonic touch and being okay not acting on those feelings has had many benefits in our lives!
I and others I know have at some point felt attracted or a crush toward someone we were platonically cuddling. Over time those feelings and bodily reactions faded as our bodies and minds learned from experience that the connection with this person will always be platonic.
Also, in general when platonic cuddling was new for us it more often brought up erotic or romantic feelings for us. Over weeks and months as we got more experience separating cuddling from erotic connection, our erotic desires came up less and less in those settings to the point that it is easily managed when it infrequently comes up. Another factor is that our innate need for platonic touch became more and more filled. We became less and less hungry for touch because we were getting what we needed. I’ve found for most people the more they’re receiving platonic touch, the less that their bodies and minds intertwine platonic touch with romantic desire. The same is also true as someone adds more and more people to their life with whom they share platonic touch or cuddling. As we added more people to our life with whom we shared platonic touch, our intensity of attachment to any one person became more appropriately balanced. Unfortunately I don’t have a crystal ball to say this all will happen for you as well, although it is likely.
A great place to meet platonic cuddle buddies is at workshops/events on communication, consent, and optional platonic cuddling:
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“I’d like to come straight from work. Can I change, shower, or brush my teeth at your house?”
Sure! I appreciate your consideration for hygiene. 🙂 Please just let me know this ahead of time and bring your own towel and toiletries.
“What does platonic mean?”
Platonic means non-romantic and non-erotic. Contrary to mainstream American culture, people can enjoy touch and connecting emotionally in a platonic way. 🙂
My 5 star reviews are at:
“This was my first time I ever cuddled with a professional cuddler. While setting up the appointment with Kyle, I realized why I wanted to have this experience. I unconsciously wanted the experience to heal a prior cuddling experience with a friend that did not end well. Kyle was safe, appropriate and supportive. It was a great life affirming experience that I highly recommend. With Kyle’s help, I healed this long buried emotional trauma. Thank you Kyle!” Alain, Entrepreneur, self growth enthusiast
“The truly special thing about Kyle though is his genuine authenticity and compassion. I cried tears that had been building up for months, but unlike tears I’ve cried alone, I finally felt such relief that came from Kyle’s ability to make me feel seen and understood.
Kyle has a way of making you feel validated, whether it be by listening and giving tight hugs in response or sharing his own experiences to confirm you aren’t alone in your feelings. I have come away from my sessions with Kyle feeling calm, quiet, and a bit more whole. A session with Kyle is so much more than just physical comfort; his gentle energy and his compassion provide so much mental and emotional comfort as well.” –Gina, International Business Consultant
“It’s rare in life you come across individuals that are good at what they do, and don’t treat it as a job. The best way I can describe it is he treats you like family, like you belong.
Well, that’s Kyle. He is serious about this, excellent at his craft and he loves what he does. He’s got the kindest, gentlest, and most loving personality of anyone that I know. He’s just an all around good person. Good to the marrow of the bone.
He’s just a natural at this. He creates a clean, safe and calm space. Gentle conversation and talking throughout the sessions at just the right moments. He gave me the gift of courage to think about things in my life that I may not have done otherwise. This journey has been life changing for me.
Kyle is modest too. I tell him thank you all the time for being able to help me find some of the keys that were lying around on the floor of my memory. Then, giving me the courage to use those keys and face what was behind doors that I might not have otherwise opened. But he immediately turns it around telling me that I did all the hard work, he was there to assist.
I would say to anyone that is reading this. If you’re thinking about enlisting the services of a Cuddlist and looking to find someone that has the heart for what they do, look NO further. Kyle is someone you should contact! You won’t go wrong. I appreciate all he’s done during the time we’ve connected!!!” -John, Team Manager, Fortune 100 Company
“Kyle is an awesome Cuddlist! He is a gentle soul who genuinely cares about people, their lives and their general well-being. He shows compassion, empathy and connecting during his cuddle sessions!
Kyle reminds me that I am important and lovable! He provides a safe warm hold and touch that is both soothing and healing! His gentle nature comes through in his conversation and in his therapeutic holding!
Kyle knows how to connect to me on a personal level while incorporating multiple holding styles for both of us.
Kyle is lighthearted and authentic. He has a warm smile and a soothing voice that is well suited for one on one holding. Kyle creates a bond, encouraging conversation if I want it, with strong yet gentle holding. Each session is personalized for the moment.
I love Kyle’s gentleness and authenticity while ensuring safety and healthy boundaries. Kyle always establishes preferences by asking me specifics and having me ask in return. My needs can change per session. Kyle is extremely aware and amenable to what is most beneficial at any given session. I feel relaxed, accepted, affirmed, soothed, and appreciated!
He’ll warm your heart in a soothing and emotionally healing cuddle session!
Human touch is essential to good health!
Thank you, Kyle, for your warmth, sincerity and connection!” -Brad, Massage Therapist
Contact me and get complimentary resources at www.cuddlingandcoaching.com
My 5 star reviews are at: